心理学上有一个名词叫“敌意化投射”:一个人对世界的认知与看法,很大程度上来源于自己内心的投射。在生活中,我们常常会遇到这样的人:他们对外界充满偏见,遇到与他们三观不同的人,总习惯用自己的三观去评价甚至诋毁对方。
“我嘞逗哎~你看这葱切得不长不短~你看这姜切得不薄不厚~真对症!”最近被赞“有大智慧”“掌握高情商夸夸术”的凯凯奶奶火了,看完她与老伴相处的烟火日常,直呼:和风细雨的一句话,顶费尽口舌的一万句呐!口能吐蒺藜,也能吐玫瑰。说话,就像一个人的名片,展示着你的个性、学识、能力和魅力。
英文翻译:Rulers use feng to cultivate the people and the people use them to ridicule the rulers. So long as a critic advises the monarch mildly and through beautiful poetry, he will not be found guilty and the monarch he criticizes will become more careful in making decisions.